Discomfort

 

I am nervous.

I am just a kid writing her first post on a website, afraid of people calling me naive and weird. Even though I know those stereotypical comments will be not worth listening to, I am naturally uncomfortable. But as a rational thinker, I am aware that discomfort is the only way I can truly grow. Some people don’t realize how pointless it is to be comfortable all the time and try to stay out of spotlight. But, in order to truly find out new information and grow, one needs to be put in new situations.

Learning is extremely important and is something that can be done in every situation. The difference is, how much you can learn. If you try new things, you can learn what you love to do. If you perform in front of others, you may learn more about the audience based on how they respond. If you show your skills to others, those people can teach you how perfect your skills when they give feedback. Of course things are different for everyone, but that is how I see the importance of discomfort.

On top of that, our life has hardly any meaning if we don’t strive to inspire others or even just entertain them. Once you’ve gained powerful insights, you can always discuss them with others. You may completely change them, or they will at least have another perspective to consider. If you put on an uncomfortable performance, you can show people how hard you have worked. They may be inspired to be just like that and try their best themselves. Or, you could simply entertain them. People may need time to sit back and release stress. If you put on a good show, they will likely enjoy it. If you don’t, they may find out what not to do in terms of performance.

Life is absolutely beautiful because you can give yourself the opportunity to grow, or inspire others yourself. The result of your experiences depends on how much effort you are willing to put in. In order to grow more, something new has to happen. Thank you for reading my first post. I hope I can learn how to communicate better and inspire others!

Discomfort

 

I am nervous.

I am just a kid writing her first post on a website, afraid of people calling me naive and weird. Even though I know those stereotypical comments will be not worth listening to, I am naturally uncomfortable. But as a rational thinker, I am aware that discomfort is the only way I can truly grow. Some people don’t realize how pointless it is to be comfortable all the time and try to stay out of spotlight. But, in order to truly find out new information and grow, one needs to be put in new situations.

Learning is extremely important and is something that can be done in every situation. The difference is, how much you can learn. If you try new things, you can learn what you love to do. If you perform in front of others, you may learn more about the audience based on how they respond. If you show your skills to others, those people can teach you how perfect your skills when they give feedback. Of course things are different for everyone, but that is how I see the importance of discomfort.

On top of that, our life has hardly any meaning if we don’t strive to inspire others or even just entertain them. Once you’ve gained powerful insights, you can always discuss them with others. You may completely change them, or they will at least have another perspective to consider. If you put on an uncomfortable performance, you can show people how hard you have worked. They may be inspired to be just like that and try their best themselves. Or, you could simply entertain them. People may need time to sit back and release stress. If you put on a good show, they will likely enjoy it. If you don’t, they may find out what not to do in terms of performance.

Life is absolutely beautiful because you can give yourself the opportunity to grow, or inspire others yourself. The result of your experiences depends on how much effort you are willing to put in. In order to grow more, something new has to happen. Thank you for reading my first post. I hope I can learn how to communicate better and inspire others!

Unfairness

I understand what people mean when they say "the world is unfair". We all get it. It's when you worked so hard on a school project just to forget to turn it in, when people are judged based on appearances, and so on. Everything would be perfect if the world was fair, I guess. But many people don't realize the benefits they can earn in even a negative situation.

Our universe spins us around like a wheel in this game of chance we call life. By chance you happen to be passionate about something, and by chance you happen to live in a world in which no one cares. You'll get thrown on your butt while everyone else walks by without noticing. I get it, trust me. But, you can eventually see the people who do care. By trial and error, you reach out to different people until you find just a few open ears. Then more, and more, and more will pop up. You realize that the more you worked for it, the stronger you became. Now you know the best ways to teach people, what type of people to trust, and you have understood many points of view. It couldn't have happened if things were that easy.

Of course, you might not always find what you want. I am currently reading The Alchemisby Paulo Coelho, and one of the quotes was “And, when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.” I don't know if that's true. I will talk from my perspective now, because I understand this story a bit better. I have strived towards a specific goal before, only to run out of methods and not reach my goal. Luckily, I have learned to accept my flaw. Heck, I have learned to love my flaw. I have learned to grow strong with it. I can now find more ways to work around my imperfections, as if I carved myself a new path. That is why I act as if I don't believe in God. If God wanted me to achieve my dreams, the path would be made clear for me. I would know exactly what I want to do, and work hard to do it. My goal would be achieved, and I'll live on happiwy eva afta. Yada, yada. Then again, it is possible that God is watching me and making sure I find something worth living for. All these trials make me so strong, and they usually end up being very worth it. That is why I choose to be agnostic; meaning I don't know whether God exists or not. It doesn't matter to me that much anyway, because I already know that my life is basically up to me.

I guess I would say that the world is fair. But I am using "fair" very generally. Tons of work may not amount to the desired option, but maybe something else just as cool. That is why I believe in the principle of equivalent exchange; in order for something to be gained, something of equal value must be lost. (I'll be honest, I learned that from Fullmetal Alchemist. You should totally watch it if you haven't.) If you search your whole life for something, some "byproduct" may be formed that you never notice. Unless you commit suicide and no one learns from your mistake. That is the ultimate end that everyone should try to avoid. That is because happiness is always, always possible. I believe that this world follows that beautiful pattern, and that is why I wouldn't want to be part of any other world. No time is ever wasted, there is always potential, and I want to make the most of my life.

I'll see you later!

Hardship

7/11/17

Perspective is everything.  One world can actually be many different things, depending on the ways people see it. If you open up to different perspectives, you can learn so many things. Heck, your world could be flipped upside. That happened when I had a conversation with someone.

It started out with me asking, “Do you believe that all hardship will eventually lead to an equal reward?”

“No” he said. Boom. Just that was enough to shake me a bit. I thought, that sucks.

“The one thing I do believe,” he continued, “is that hard work and hardship are two very different things. Very successful people can live in the lap of luxury while still working hard”. Well, that’s obvious. But I never really thought about it that much.

“But I had always thought that in order to be strong in this world, you have to face hardship.” I replied curiously.

“Yes, you can face hardship. But you shouldn’t go around looking for hardship”. Let’s hear that again: you shouldn’t go around looking for hardship. That’s a great way of putting it. So many times, I have tried hard to be my very best self. I have learned so many (unexpected) things, but I have fallen. I have cried so many times over something so stupid as not reaching my highest expectations. At first, I thought it was natural. Everyone needs some sort of frustration to push yourself to be better. But after a while, I seemed decide that it’s not worth it. Every time I would think about my “failure”, tears would spring into my eyes. I couldn’t help it; I felt like a baby. It sucked. I ended up thinking that it was my hard work that put me in the pool of doubt.

But, was I looking for those tears? Maybe all I needed hard work instead of hardship. Big difference. If I had just enjoyed the practice of actively improving instead of caring about the result, then I probably wouldn’t have stopped trying.

Although, something puzzled me. I asked him, “If you can learn how to push past hardship and deal with hardship, then it would make you stronger, right?”

“Yes,” he said thoughtfully. “But everyone deals with hardship in their life. The difference is whether or not you’re looking for it”.  Let’s think about this; Naturally, I would be at least a little sad if I felt things weren’t going my way. I could have pushed past the hardship and kept going. But I chose to dwell on it. I chose to knock myself down when I didn’t need to. That was the end of my motivation.

I don’t think I realized that when I was talking to him. I replied, “If hardship makes you stronger, then why are children allowed to live in paradise?”

“Children don’t live in paradise” is all he said.